By Kamilah Thorpe
I took this picture of my desk last year at around New Year’s time. I took it out of humour because I couldn’t help but laugh at the extent to which my desk had fallen into disarray. It was so extreme that I felt I had to capture it. But the main reason I took it was to remind me never to let such a mess happen again.
Last night when I was sorting through photos on my desktop and came across it again, I was struck by a rather philosophical idea: Why do we make New Year’s resolutions? Why is it so necessary for us to feel like we have a fresh start—a new chance to change for the better?
I think one reason is that we feel the need to learn from the past and move on.
And the beautiful thing about life is that every New Year—every day really—we get a fresh start to take a snap shot of what went wrong and put it behind us, moving towards a better future.
In my experience being a part of YPY, but also in many other outreach and service-related things I’ve done, I have met many people who suffer the pain caused by choices that they had made in the past. I would venture to say that some of the deepest pain I have seen has been the pain experienced by women who have lost their children.
Abortion is a tragedy in that it ends the life of a child, but it is also a tragedy for that child’s mother. The choice to have an abortion is very often a choice that is accompanied by hurt, rejection, and fear, regardless of the quick relief that it might bring to an extremely stressful situation.
This last year has left thousands of women hurting from abortion and I sincerely hope that each one receives the love and support that she needs to heal. I truly hope that this New Year can be one of healing and new life for every woman who has had to experience the trauma of abortion.